tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post2387682359256528199..comments2023-10-18T09:00:16.301-07:00Comments on An-NaseeHah : النصيحة: 4.0 Distinction between: (a) advising; and (b) imposing laws.Zhulkeflee Bin Haji Ismailhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09546529393463813852noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-33347570120765476032008-06-16T10:58:00.000-07:002008-06-16T10:58:00.000-07:00Wa 'alaykum salaam war.wab.Yes! Many do find it ra...Wa 'alaykum salaam war.wab.<BR/><BR/>Yes! Many do find it rather difficult to "Da'wah" (call or invite) own siblings / relatives / spouses, as compared to doing same towards people whom they barely know. Yet, when we merely view our efforts at only providing sincere advise - unassuming i.e. by not trying to be talking from a 'higher pedestal' (as if we are assuming the role of a Da'i - as one having authority i.e. who is doing Da'wah), it becomes much easier, and we should offer it to our close ones routinely as part of our normal interaction with them. When this becomes our disposition - normally seen as our way of behaviour, things will get easier. <BR/><BR/>If we have never been known to give advise, to make a start (i.e. as new beginning, as to how we would henceforth behave with them), it may be initially not easily recieved - unless they see sincerity and earnestness on our part. Check your intention. Also, because of familiarity, advice when given by us must be seen as 'serious', it must be differentiated from our other casual mood towards them e.g. joking, teasing or the 'manja-manja' moods. Their familiarity and personal knowledge of us may be a 'baggage', because they will instinctively judge our advice firstly on how much it is being practiced in ourselves. Whereas for strangers, they do not know us that intimately, and thus it is comparatively easier.<BR/><BR/>To your question:"How do we help them, when we ourselves are struggling?" My response is: " We first and foremost, make our struggling to be a good servant of Allah as the focus in our life, our main objective - not in our trying to help them!" Helping them is only incidental, by way of our hope that whatever good we want for ourselves, we also wish them to benefit the same if they follow. In fact this principle has Qur'anic basis for Allah warns: "Do ye enjoin right conduct on the people and forget (to practise it) yourselves and yet ye study the Scripture? Will ye not understand?" (Q:2:44) <BR/><BR/>This is called, Da'wah by example. This is less intimidating towards them, and we will be able to maintain our humility (Tawadhu'), inshaAllah. It does not really matter whether we are youngest or oldest. When we direct any criticism and advice towards ourselves - other people will, less likely be offended, If you can do this, being patient in giving the advise (by focussing with your own struggling) even if it be small or little but accompanied by our prayers, with our thoughts ever mindful upon how we shall have to meet Allah (Taqwa) - this itself is the kind of 'help or assistance' prescribed by Allah s.w.t. that guarantees His Divine intervention. Allah has enjoined upon us this: "Nay seek (Allah's) help with patient perseverance and prayer: it is indeed hard, except to those who are humble.Who bear in mind the certainty that they are to meet their Lord, and that they are to return to Him." (Q:2: 45-46). <BR/><BR/>Do not worry about whether your approach can or cannot be effective towards making them heed the advice - this is the concern of Allah (Allah Guides, not us). And, yes nobody ever claim themselves to be a good example - that is humility! <BR/><BR/>So sister, you are not alone in this. As to your worry that "Time may not have the patience for us", rest assure of Allah's generosity towards His servants as reported, that when a Believer embarked upon a good (righteous) deed sincerely for the sake of Allah, even if he is unable to complete the deed, Allah will reward him as though it has been perfectly completed! <BR/><BR/>"Those who patiently persevere will truly receive a reward without measure!" (Q:39:10).<BR/><BR/>WaAllaahu a'lam<BR/><BR/> Was-salaamZhulkeflee Bin Haji Ismailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546529393463813852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-60922849127823855832008-06-16T08:18:00.000-07:002008-06-16T08:18:00.000-07:00Salam to you Ustaz,Thank you so much for the effor...Salam to you Ustaz,<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for the effort that you have been putting just to help us in attaining knowledge.<BR/><BR/>With regards to giving naseehah, why does it seem so hard to call or invite your own siblings/relative and also the spouses when compared to people you barely known? How do we help them when we are struggling to do our part as His servant? And further being the youngest sibling and a woman, there are limitations to what we can do besides praying for them and reminding them without being offensive. Definitely, I am not a good example to follow but I always pray that they will be the better example, so we will be a constant reminder to each other and not to transgress further. At times it just gets lonely and felt weak fighting this battle alone but alhamdullilah for the knowlege that you've imparted. Sometimes Ustaz, I fear that Time do not have patience for us.<BR/><BR/>Your advise will be most appreciated,Ustaz.<BR/><BR/>Wassalam<BR/>Sabrina Binte SallehSabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15340796003418466692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-31498422854105477492008-04-30T08:53:00.000-07:002008-04-30T08:53:00.000-07:00Thanks ustadh. Sometimes, when I am with the non-M...Thanks ustadh. Sometimes, when I am with the non-Muslims, I do the "du'a" of "Allahummah dina fi man hadaait" in my heart, with the hope that it is an extra step closer for them to be Muslims one day. "La ilaha illallah" is indeed a precious jewel which a Muslim should wish to share with others, for is it the key to "jannah".al-faqir ilallahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00168124835811007628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-72658889583911940642008-04-30T03:30:00.000-07:002008-04-30T03:30:00.000-07:00Da’wah – “call or invite” in fact is our commitmen...Da’wah – “call or invite” in fact is our commitment as Muslim, when we make “shahadat’ain” – profession of becoming a Muslim (our self-actualization). From then on we must be determined to make our whole life as a declaration of who we are, to “become witnesses unto every people” (shuhada-a ‘alan-naas), that they may know the TRUTH, and hopefully they also can gain the Paradise because Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. was sent also to them. When you truly understand the significance of the first pillar of Islam, you’ll know that Muslims must be proactive in Da’wah.<BR/>How to? Firstly we must have love for Islam and a sense of gratefulness to Allah s.w.t. for having guided us, and this will motivate us to want to share. Many subjects in general affecting life can be used to lead simple conversation towards Islam and its teachings. Use wisdom and intelligence. Of course it does not always have to be direct and blunt, especially when bringing subject of Islam, when they indicate disinterest in the subject, therefore inappropriate – then refrain from talking. Do not bore them. BUT, in their presence we must “talk to Allah i.e. make “Du’a” that Allah may open their hearts and guide them.” Our concern for them to be guided to Islam within us, our resolve (‘azam) and sincere intention to Allah (niat) to be doing Da’wah towards them, even by our mere presence (although we have to remain silent and do not speak about Islam) is quite sufficient.Zhulkeflee Bin Haji Ismailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546529393463813852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-16902000088984676602008-04-29T18:50:00.000-07:002008-04-29T18:50:00.000-07:00Dear Ustadh,So do we take on a more proactive role...Dear Ustadh,<BR/><BR/>So do we take on a more proactive role to da'wah or should we only wait for the questions to pop up from the non Muslims, as many would say? They feel that if the non Muslims do not ask questions, we should not mention to them a single bit of information about our religion?bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351392201744668270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-80788787316033243592008-04-28T23:04:00.000-07:002008-04-28T23:04:00.000-07:00Thanks for the answer dear ustadh. The phrase "mif...Thanks for the answer dear ustadh. The phrase "miftaah-al-jannah" reminds me of the book by al-Arif Billah al-Habib Ahmad Masyhur al-Haddad which evolves much around "la ilaha illallah". Sometimes, I do wonder what can happen if all Muslims realise the importance of this kalimah and care to share it with their non-Muslim friends, schoolmates, colleagues and neighbours. I believe that will make a huge difference to the da'wah scene. Is'n it ustadh?al-faqir ilallahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00168124835811007628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-76520931904545163312008-04-28T05:39:00.000-07:002008-04-28T05:39:00.000-07:00Our Prophet s.a.w. taught us to invite non-Muslim,...Our Prophet s.a.w. taught us to invite non-Muslim, firstly and of most utmost priority for them is, to acknowledge “laa-ilaaha-illallaah”. This kalimah which is well-known as “miftaah-al-jannah” the key to paradise. Yes, we must not lose sight of this in making Da’wah to them. Yet, sometimes, offering them the ‘key to the garden’ may not seem to interest them (the key itself – i.e.the kalimah tauhid itself). They may want to know what else are there inside the garden – (the whole teaching of Islam, upon which the key opens itself to i.e., Tauhidic paradigm). Yes we need to appeal to what may interest them. They may admire it but we know that they are still outside the garden and they need to accept the key. We must remember to always offer them the key. Acknowledging beauty of Islam, like some orientalist who know so much about Islam, but this will not save them except when they accept the key and the finality of the prophethood in Muhammad s.a.w.Zhulkeflee Bin Haji Ismailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546529393463813852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5650525314400955812.post-75075944658481103362008-04-27T22:27:00.000-07:002008-04-27T22:27:00.000-07:00Deat Ustadh,Thanks for setting up this blog. I hop...Deat Ustadh,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for setting up this blog. I hope it can be a useful place to discuss things for the betterment of ourselves and the ummah at large. My question is, if da'wah encapsulates naseehah, does that mean that when we do da'wah to our non-Muslim friends and colleagues, the subject matter does not have to be always about la ilaha illallah? Thanks Ustadh. Barakallahu fik wa maas salamah. Sameer Abdul Jalilal-faqir ilallahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00168124835811007628noreply@blogger.com